4th Trimester · Mom Life · Tips and Tricks

Surviving the 4th Trimester



Im sure we have all heard of the 1st, 2nd and third trimester but have you heard of the 4th?   That’s right, its not over at birth. After having my little girl it was a crash course into motherhood especially the first few weeks. I joined some parenting groups on Facebook and the same thing kept coming up, the 4th trimester.  Little did I  know about the 4th trimester but apparently it is a ‘thing’ and its a big one at that.


To read more head over to Mummypages for the rest of the article.


What tips would you give someone going through the 4th trimester?


Shauna x

Career · Mom Life · Returning to work · Tips and Tricks

Returning to Work and Me – tips to survive the transition


Dear new moms returning to work, I have been where you are. It can  can be a choice for moms or sometimes necessary.  For others returning to work  couldn’t come quick enough and for some maternity leave  went in the blink of an eye. It was the latter for me and it was something I struggled with hugely.   No mother should feel judged either way but both will have to go through that transition. The transition from new motherhood to returning back to work is a shock to the system but these for tips should help.


Prepare, Prepare, Prepare

When I was pregnant I spent all my time preparing for our girl to arrive making sure I had all my ducks in a row.  It was no different with returning to work. There are so many  ‘ducks’ to get in a row from childcare, household duties, who is doing what etc. It can be  quite overwhelming .

  •   Make sure to get reliable childcare, the last thing you need is  to be worried whether you will make it to creche on time.  Depending on your job and your support systems, find what childcare  suits your family best.
  •  Trying to stay on top  of the house in the first few weeks was a nightmare by the time I got home and got Eva to sleep I felt like I had my days work  long done.  I finally started to do blitz cleans  on a Saturday or Sunday and a quick tidy around daily.
  • Batch cooking!! All I can say is this is a must! For the days I would get home late or the mornings I was running out the door , it was so nice to stick my hand in the freezer and pull out a meal. That went for both Eva and myself.(I will be posting some of my go to recipes soon )
  • Practice run.  Two weeks before my return I did a few practice runs of how my work days would go. I set my alarm and did a run through for the day to see the time I needed in the mornings.  This also helped Eva to adjust to her new routine from being at home with me to being with my hubby then shuttled to my parents for a few hours


Make it Gradual

Link with work at least 4 weeks before your return to sort out the nitty gritty of your return but I would say make it  easier on yourself. Whether you  work full-time or part-time don’t throw yourself in at the deep end. Try taking a short week if you can or even half days. This really helped both Eva and I with the return. It eased us into our new routine.


Don’t be hard on yourself

Settling back in to work and playing the new juggle game is going to take a while to get used to . Though you may be in your work place physically it will be a while  before you are emotionally and mentally present (mommy brain is a thing just like pregnancy brain). Your workplace and colleagues will understand that this adjustment will take awhile, you need to realise this too. Give yourself time .


Quality Time

Time may seem hard to find during the constant juggling but don’t neglect quality time .   It was always the nights I was working that it seemed to take hours for Eva to finally settle to sleep. I used to get frustrated  at times as I held her in my arms nursing  that I just wanted to go downstairs and eat.  Till  it hit me like a ton of bricks that she missed me and just wanted to have a cuddle  and chat (lots of babbling) with Mommy. She craved that quality time with me where there was no distractions of phones, food to be cooked or the house to be cleaned.





Finally remember not everything will go as planned, in the first few weeks after returning its just trying to survive and settle into the new routine. Most of all, though a challenging step in motherhood, enjoy the new journey.



Would love to hear about your experiences returning to work and what helped you?

Shauna xxx




breastfeeding · Mom Life

Breastfeeding tips for Moms to be and New Moms

So as it is World Breastfeeding Week from 1st-7th August I couldn’t help but use this as an opportunity to talk about breastfeeding! This is a topic that is close to my heart and something that I am very passionate about. It was always something I was very curious about and since I had Eva and we have been on our breastfeeding journey  it has heightened. Currently we are 13 months in to our journey and boy  has it had its ups and downs. That is a blog for a different day….

Disclaimer: I am not  a trained breastfeeding professional/lactation consultant  but these are my top tips  for moms who are about to begin or who have just began their nursing journey, whether its baby no. 1 or 6.

1: Preparation and Support, Support, Support…..

This is one thing I thought I did well but I was wrong! I booked myself in for the breast feeding class at the hospital that I attended and felt that it only covered positioning etc but didn’t tell you about the first two nights, well more especially night two!  I would recommend even while you are pregnant to go to support groups .  Here you can meet other  like minded Moms  and breast feeding counselors who can support you on your journey .

Here is a list of some of the organisations that have groups in many areas across Ireland;

La Leche Leagues Groups – https://www.lalecheleagueireland.com/groups/ 

Cuidui – http://www.cuidiu-ict.ie/branches_map

Friends of Breastfeeding- http://www.friendsofbreastfeeding.ie/wp/support-2/.


Back to night 2, oh my was it tough. I feel like this is  a must to talk about as  I remember lying in bed asking my Hubby  what’s wrong, why won’t she settle  without a boob in her mouth.  I kept taking her off and on trying to settle her in her co-sleeper but to no avail. Looking back I was trying not to ‘spoil her’ but the truth is you can’t. Whenever we have our next nursling  I would just feed ,feed, feed, lots and lots of skin to skin  and co-sleep more.  At this stage baby  is trying to  bring the milk in and wants to be comforted.  All normal in the 4th trimester and  to a newbie nursing baby.

To help with preparation a must read is  the ‘Womanly Art of Breastfeeding’, this was recommended by a friend and is really informative and  an almost ‘fix it’ book. It doesn’t replace a Lactation Consultant  but can be so helpful as it gives you breastfeeding solutions for breastfeeding problems.

Apologies for the rambling but I really wanted to  touch on this subject ,I really cant reiterate that point enough especially if it is your first nursing journey. Whether it is your partner bringing you food ( you will have a ravenous hunger  and cravings even worse than in pregnancy, I pretty much lived off the Lidl chocolate traybake the first few days)  or becoming your research partner. Your partner is going to be your biggest cheerleader, make sure you both  are on the same page when it comes to feeding . Having family members on board is also pivotal as  the last thing a nursing mother wants to hear is ‘baby would sleep better having a bottle’ or ‘when are you going to stop’ and having your partner to support you is such an amazing feeling, even if sometimes  they  just provide some comic relief.

My biggest support


2: Be kind to your Breasts

Yes ladies be kind to those breasts, they are feeding your little one!!  Breastfeeding can be uncomfortable at the start but ways that I found helped me through the sometimes unbearable pain ( Eva had a posterior tongue tie) was rubbing breast milk on my nipple and let it air dry,  plenty of nipple cream and finally my  must have is Multimam Compresses!!  Those compresses felt as good as taking your bra off after a long day! Speaking of bras when you begin your nursing journey  you will feel like you have become Jordan over night. Invest in good supportive bras for the first few weeks. Personally I found the Emma Jane ones the best as my cup size kept changing through the early weeks and these bras  the cup  adjusts from a B-F. The may not be attractive but are very practical  so you don’t have to keep buying new bras at the start.


In all seriousness though if breastfeeding is continuing to be painful please  seek out a qualified lactation consultant  and they will be able to guide you on your journey.



3: Make  a Feeding Nook

This  doesn’t mean spending a bomb  on items but to create a space where you feel relaxed and where you can feed your baby. What I found handy  was having a basket close to  me downstairs and one upstairs by my bed. The items included; Snacks ( for the ravenous hunger) , water (its key to hydrate, hydrate,hydrate) , remote control/Ipad/book( for all the times baby falls asleep after a feed and you take all the newborn cuddles you can get) ,  breastfeeding pillow ( this was a must for the early days) ,breast pads and nipple cream( yes its needed!!).




4: Don’t be Ruled by Schedules

As a first time nursing mom I heard it all from’baby would be more settled on formula’ , ‘  she sure does feed a lot, she must not be getting enough’.    The first few weeks your baby is getting up its milk supply for the next 6 months. Let baby  nurse for as long and for as often as she wants. In the first 6 weeks this could mean you are nursing more than you are not but enjoy those sweet moments they don’t last for long especially when you baby turns into a toddler and  nursing becomes less quiet and relaxing but more like acrobatics!! Again skin to skin during these  times is a must.




Breastfeeding has been one of the most incredible journeys I have been on  and the bond it created for us is just amazing.


A gold nugget of a tip was shared with  me when I was pregnant and  it was ‘ never give up on a bad day’  



Thanks for reading, I would love it if you could let me know what you think.

Shauna xx


Mom Life

Mom Guilt and Me

This topic is one close to my heart as it is something that I have struggled with and still do 12 months on and to be honest it is something that I  think will continue  throughout the various stages of being a Mom to an ever growing child.

So Mom  guilt! Its a real thing, I know this as its something I deal with on a daily basis.


Not Spending enough time with Eva

Not cleaning the house to spend all day with Eva

Wondering is the house ever going to get cleaned

The house is spotless and I don’t want to let her mess it up

Working to help support our family

Leaving her to go to work

Feeling like I could have done more in a day with her

Getting out all day to the playground and she falls

When I go do the groceries on  my own  and see other babies out with their parent and Eva is at home

Taking Eva to do the groceries with me and  she has an uber meltdown

Putting on her favourite show just to get some peace for a moment or two


Moving her to her own room

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The list is endless!  To be honest anything can turn into a reason to feel guilty. There is always something that will come up during the day that I felt like I could have done better, it’s apart of life.  So when I realised that there is no way  of getting away from it I stopped letting it get at me , instead I decided to embrace  mom guilt.

I started to look at it in a more positive light, I have mom guilt because I love her so much and want what is best for her. This realisation  alone really helped me  breathe a huge sigh of relief and in that it helped.

So my words of  wisdom  are don’t let  mom guilt fester and try embrace it instead. When those thoughts come in let them go and think of something you  did today. Whether it wasn’t losing your marbles at your 2 year old who spilled  the sugar all over the floor or  you actually managed to get out of the house today without forgetting something. Let’s celebrate the small victories

What are your ways of dealing with mom guilt?

Shauna x

Mom Life

Mom Life, Blog Life…….

Okay so here it goes…… my first blog! I am a complete rookie so please bear with me over the next few weeks as I grow my blog.

My name is Shauna and I am a 26 year old Irish girl navigating my way though the journey of motherhood.  I  have been married to my best friend two years now and  we have an amazing little girl called Eva.

When I had Eva  it was such a culture shock to going from  a recently married couple to family of three.  There are so many things looking back I wish  I had known about being a mom. No one tells you how challenging mom life can be.  From watching movies to TV shows I always thought becoming a mommy would be a breeze but boy was I wrong.  Not going to lie but I pretty much survived on chocolate for the first few months. Don’t get me wrong I love it and really think I have found my purpose in life of being a mom but there are days when you feel like you want to pull your hair out, well whats left after the post partum hair loss. For the last few months I have been wanting to start a blog documenting my journey  through motherhood  and now I have finally bit the  bullet!

My hope for this blog is to share my journey , tips, experiences and passions  in the hope it might benefit someone. There will also be lots of recipes, DIY crafts and fitness( well my journey to try get fit again).

I am really looking forward to sharing this journey with you all.

Shauna x